4 Roles You Should Never Put Your Wife In
Not if you want to keep having sex with her
I would’ve loved to be a sexy little housewife.
Hanging around the kitchen in my cute little apron, with my bare ass peeking out the back.
Lounging around in bed with a loose sweater on. Ready to get felt up and loved up.
Teasing my husband over text all day so he can come home and ravish me when he’s done working.
I’m not sure I could’ve kept that up forever. But it would’ve been nice while it lasted.
I didn’t get much of a chance to play that role, though.
My self-esteem got in the way. Turns out you have to feel pretty damn confident about your body to walk around without any bottoms on.
I’m chronically ill, too. Sadly, that took a lot of the wind out of my sexy sails.
But also, you don’t always get to pick your role. Sometimes your husband just puts you in one and you don’t really have much of a say about it.
It’s almost never a fun one, either.
It’s usually one that makes your libido sink. And then you have to kiss goodbye to all your fantasies of being a carefree horny wifey.
If you’re a husband, that’s a bummer for you too. Because you can’t enjoy all the perks of having a sexed up wife if she never gets to feel like one.
There are things you can do to improve your odds, though. You can keep flirting with her. You can make time to really connect with her emotionally. You can be present with her.
And you can avoid putting her in any of these incredibly unsexy roles.
The Sexual Gatekeeper
This is a super common one. Probably because it starts off so innocently.
You’ve got a relationship with a tiny libido mismatch. He wants to fuck like all the time. And most of the time, she’s down for it.
So, he gets used to putting the moves on her real casually.
He slips his hand up her shirt when they’re cuddling.
He grabs her by the waist and presses his hard bulge against her ass.
Or he straight up just tells her, “Come on, let’s fuck.”
And when she’s open to it, she can get herself there. She can go from zero to horny-enough in just a minute or two.
But when she’s not, she has to stop him. And because he’s being so quick and casual with his moves, she has to slam the brakes hard.
She has to push his hands away. She has to pull her body away from him. She has to sigh and tell him that she just wants to go to sleep.
And that’s how she becomes the sexual gatekeeper.
Now she’s the one who always has to turn down his advances. She has to say no all the time. She has to shut things down if there’s a chance he might take it too far.
She’ll even start being uncomfortable with things that should be enjoyable. Like a little playful banter, a backrub, or even just changing her pants in front of her dear hubby. He might use those as opportunities to put the moves on her, so she’s got to put her guard up.
And there’s no way in hell she’ll get horny when she’s on the defensive.
It’s easy to avoid, thankfully.
All you have to do is let her be playful, sweet, and sexy.
Give her all the naked, full body massages she wants. Let her wear barely anything around you. Enjoy some intimate date nights with her.
Just don’t use them as opportunities to put the moves on her.
That way, she can tease you and make herself all cute for you. She can be as flirty as she wants to be. She can get all worked up to the point where she has the full blown urge to hump you.
If you’re always pushing for sex, you’ll almost never get it. She needs a chance to actually want it - and to escalate until she gets it.
But she can never give you the green light if she always has to flash the red one.
The Nag
My husband is my soulmate. I can’t imagine my life without him.
But boy oh boy is he forgetful.
It’s better since he got on Concerta, but the meds can only take you so far. And it’s not always far enough.
So, I keep having to remind him to do things he was supposed to do. And then remind him a third time when it still didn’t get done.
Which means I’ve got to nag him sometimes.
And I’m really not a big fan of it.
For one thing, it makes me feel bad. Like I’m being bossy and bothersome.
Which doesn’t put me in a sexy mindset at all.
I try to be playful about it. I like to tease him, not scold him.
But it still doesn’t make me feel like taking off my top and riding him. Because I just can’t feel all that attractive when I feel like a bother - and I can’t get in the mood unless I feel attractive.
So, take it from me. If you want more naked time with your wife, start by getting your shit together.
Stay on top of your responsibilities. If she asks you to do something, maybe write it down so she doesn’t have to ask you again. Make the boring things you keep putting off a priority, even if you don’t really feel like it.
It’s a good way to organize your life. It’s more satisfying when you get things done instead of putting them off. And it might just get you in her pants, so you really have nothing to lose.
Your Mom
Okay look, there’s nothing unsexy about moms.
In fact, there’s a whole bunch of Moms I’d Like to Fuck out there and I’m sure you’ve noticed them too.
And if your wife feels like a hot MILFy mommy, then you’ll probably get laid more. Like, a lot more.
But not if she feels like she has to be your mom.
If she’s always picking up after you because you never clean up the messes you make.
If she ends up doing the chores you had agreed to, but didn’t bother doing.
If she’s the one who does all the cooking and laundry because you just sort of assumed she’d do them.
Then no, she probably won’t want to fuck you very often.
If you were in a stepmom porno, that would be a decent setup for a really filthy fuck scene. But it’s not going to get you anywhere in real life.
And yeah, this one’s about getting your shit together too.
In fact, it’s basically the same thing as making her feel like she has to nag you. The only difference is that instead of bugging you to do the things you should be doing, she figures she should just do them herself.
Either way, it won’t make her want to end the day with a good hard pounding.
Unless she happens to have a major tradwife kink, then you might still have a shot. But even then, she’ll probably be too tired from all that extra housework to get down and dirty.
A Wife
She’s your wife, and she wants to feel like your wife.
But she’s also more than that.
She has random little hobbies she likes to zone out with.
She has all sorts of interests and obsessions. There’s probably a very specific kind of TikTok drama she’s heavily invested in.
There’s stuff she likes to enjoy by herself or with a really close friend of hers, because it’s just more fun to do it with someone who’s on the same wavelength.
And she needs the space to indulge in all that. She needs the freedom to be herself.
But she won’t get that if she always feels like your plus-one.
If she feels disconnected from you, the relationship will be too cold. She’ll have a hard time getting turned on - she’ll need a lot of time to reconnect and warm up.
But if she feels disconnected from herself, then the relationship is going to feel stuffy. That’s going to smother her sexual desires, too.
She needs to be in touch with her solo self. She needs to do the things that make her feel energized, passionate, and excited. She needs time to daydream and fantasize and let her brain follow its weird little patterns wherever they happen to go.
If she doesn’t have room to be more than just a wife, she’ll never get to be the horny wife of your dreams - or the one she wishes she could be.
Let Her Be Her Sexiest Self
You can be a really attractive guy. You can be charming and kind and all that good stuff.
It still might not be enough to get your lady revved up and ready to go.
It helps, for sure. The more appealing you are, the more she’ll want to be a’peeling your clothes off.
But she needs to feel good about herself, too.
Because she won’t want to get on all fours for you unless she feels desirable and cute. And she won’t crave a good fuck unless she actually feels fuckable.
But she won’t feel that way if she’s always pushing your hand away or nagging you about all sorts of little things.
So, be careful not to put her in the wrong role. Because if you do, you’ll only end up cockblocking yourself.
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